Those Who Seek Adventure Together, Stay Together
Adventure travel is good for the soul, and it could be the secret to a happy relationship. Do you envy those love-struck couples who happily jet set to go surfing in Baja or mountain climbing in Peru? You could be them, you know!
All you need to do is book an adventurous trip whereon you and your partner have access to adrenaline-boosting activities. If you don’t have the time or money for a week-long getaway, you still have options: take a weekend trip or spend an afternoon seeking out adventure closer to home.
Learn New Activities Together
In her book The Date Deck, marriage therapist Esther Boykin talks about the sort of activities that bring couples closer together. “I’m big on couples having more fun,” She says. “If you have not cultivated a friendship beyond the romantic and sexual connection you share, fun can be challenging sometimes…Friendship is the foundation for long-lasting fun together.”
And, what better way to build a friendship than learning something new together, something that’s fun and has an adrenaline kick?
For example, San Diego surf lessons offer local fun for residents of the state of California or a unique vacation experience for everyone else. You can learn to surf together, and once you gain some experience, you’ll have an activity to enjoy for life. If surfing isn’t for you, the ocean has a lot of other activities to learn and enjoy, such as paddle boarding, kayaking, and snorkeling. Or, if water isn’t your thing, learn a land-based activity, such as dirt biking, four-wheeling, and mountain climbing.
It’s all about the experience of learning. Learning something new together can get you out of a rut and bond you. Plus, it has the potential to boost your dopamine, which is the brain chemical that helps fuel attraction and sex drive.
Set a Goal and Go
According to MentalHelp.com, “New experiences can cause positive changes in brain chemistry…” These changes are akin to a new love or an affair, so if you’re looking to kickstart a stagnant relationship, what better way than a new adventure? The important thing is that your adventure goals are realistic and start with a good attitude; this is going to ensure you get the results you want.
First, decide where you want to go and when; then, set a budget to help you save for the experience. MentalHelp.com says that a positive attitude toward the experience before you go is the best way to ensure you get the results you’re looking for. “Vacations do not solve serious marriage problems; however, they can help couples rediscover what they liked about each other and what helped them fall in love.”
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Remember: romantic destinations can be adventurous too; it’s all about what you do there, such as parasailing, scuba diving, and more. These activities are adrenaline packed, but the beaches offer so many opportunities for romance…including a proposal maybe?
When you get home from a trip, take a bit of time to reflect. Look at photographs together, and discuss the best parts of the trip. This walk down memory lane can rekindle some of those good feelings and restart the relationship at home too. Once the fun has faded, go ahead and plan something new to kickstart your relationship adrenaline once again.